WHISPERED SPACES


 

ABOUT KENNETH RAY STUBBS

This is my story of coming from a semi-rural area of the American south just after WWII, to teaching erotic massage in San Francisco after the hippie days, to producing the documentary The Sacred Prostitute, to teaching a shamanic training embracing sexuality, to becoming a crystal whisperer and whisperer of home, business, and ceremonial spaces indoors and in nature

 
 
Studious Cowboy Ray, about age 6, circa 1950, on the way to school. House in background was built by my grandfather by hand during the Great Depression. This semi-rural area of North Carolina has lots of pine trees, sand, sand spurs, and little critters called chiggers (they are not nice pets). Behind the house was a barn, a mule, a cow, some chickens, and the outhouse. Yep, in the winter I had cold buns back then.

Studious Cowboy Ray, about age 6, circa 1950, on the way to school. House in background was built by my grandfather by hand during the Great Depression. This semi-rural area of North Carolina has lots of pine trees, sand, sand spurs, and little critters called chiggers (they are not nice pets). Behind the house was a barn, a mule, a cow, some chickens, and the outhouse. Yep, in the winter I had cold buns back then.

Singing Hoosiers, Indiana University, 1963. My voice was not good enough for the chorus, so they let me play the string bass.  

Singing Hoosiers, Indiana University, 1963. My voice was not good enough for the chorus, so they let me play the string bass.



 

Atlanta, June 1965, training for a voter registration project throughout the South, sponsored by Martin Luther King, Jr.'s organization. I was heading up a team going to Tuscaloosa, Alabama, home of the Grand Wizard of the Ku Klux Klan. From right to left: seated, Martin Luther King, Jr.; next person unknown; Rev. Ralph Abernathy (who took over King's organization after King's assassination three years later). I am at the podium. Behind my right hand: Bayard Rustin, very early civil rights leader and gay rights activist.

Atlanta, June 1965, training for a voter registration project throughout the South, sponsored by Martin Luther King, Jr.'s organization. I was heading up a team going to Tuscaloosa, Alabama, home of the Grand Wizard of the Ku Klux Klan. From right to left: seated, Martin Luther King, Jr.; next person unknown; Rev. Ralph Abernathy (who took over King's organization after King's assassination three years later). I am at the podium. Behind my right hand: Bayard Rustin, very early civil rights leader and gay rights activist.

Junior year in high school, in concert band, 1961  

Junior year in high school, in concert band, 1961


 

Alpha chapter, Kappa Alpha Psi social fraternity, Indiana University, 1964. An unanticipated series of events led me (rear row) to "pledge" this fraternity. Racially integrated social fraternities were very uncommon then, but being a "frat guy" was what was really unusual for me.

Alpha chapter, Kappa Alpha Psi social fraternity, Indiana University, 1964. An unanticipated series of events led me (rear row) to "pledge" this fraternity. Racially integrated social fraternities were very uncommon then, but being a "frat guy" was what was really unusual for me.

University of Wisconsin, sociology grad student. Skit about our academic discipline, circa 1966

University of Wisconsin, sociology grad student. Skit about our academic discipline, circa 1966

St. Thomas, US Virgin Islands, 1969. I did not have enough money for a hotel room when I arrived on the island seeking a school teaching job. So I slept on the floor behind this boathouse bar till I got the job. Those were the hippie days, my friend. I thought they would never end.  

St. Thomas, US Virgin Islands, 1969. I did not have enough money for a hotel room when I arrived on the island seeking a school teaching job. So I slept on the floor behind this boathouse bar till I got the job. Those were the hippie days, my friend. I thought they would never end.

 

My ordination as a lay Methodist minister by 3 Methodist ministers and a gay Catholic priest. It was a spontaneous, "in the spirit of the moment," and serious ceremony at a 10-day professional sexuality course in San Francisco. I doubt though if the Methodist Church would consider it legitimate.

My ordination as a lay Methodist minister by 3 Methodist ministers and a gay Catholic priest. It was a spontaneous, "in the spirit of the moment," and serious ceremony at a 10-day professional sexuality course in San Francisco. I doubt though if the Methodist Church would consider it legitimate.

Photo from a "sensuous boutique" trade show in Los Angeles, circa 2008. In 1980 I self-published my first book since no publisher accepted it. My "Erotic Massage" book was the first instructional book to illustrate genital massage and has sold over a million copies worldwide. Now I have written/created over a dozen books, DVDs, and cards on sexuality. www.SecretGardenPublishing.com   

Photo from a "sensuous boutique" trade show in Los Angeles, circa 2008. In 1980 I self-published my first book since no publisher accepted it. My "Erotic Massage" book was the first instructional book to illustrate genital massage and has sold over a million copies worldwide. Now I have written/created over a dozen books, DVDs, and cards on sexuality. www.SecretGardenPublishing.com 
 

My current mesa (altar) with sacred pipe (covered), several "shields" from my 13 SunDance ceremonies, and many crystal friends. My perspectives on contemporary shamanism are in my documentary "Path of the Sexual Shaman." www.SexualShaman.com 

My current mesa (altar) with sacred pipe (covered), several "shields" from my 13 SunDance ceremonies, and many crystal friends. My perspectives on contemporary shamanism are in my documentary "Path of the Sexual Shaman."
www.SexualShaman.com 

Hippie days on the road, circa 1972. My "ol' lady" and I were migrant workers driving tractors during apple and pear harvest in central Washington, saving money to spend the winter down in Mexico.  

Hippie days on the road, circa 1972. My "ol' lady" and I were migrant workers driving tractors during apple and pear harvest in central Washington, saving money to spend the winter down in Mexico.


 

Photo prior to neck injury, 1991  

Photo prior to neck injury, 1991

 

I (seated) was best man at Daniel Preston (my immediate right) and Renee Reddog's wedding. Daniel was a Tohono O'odham ceremonial medicineperson until his death a few years ago. Most of all he taught me to listen to my inner truth. Daniel, soar high, my dear brother.

I (seated) was best man at Daniel Preston (my immediate right) and Renee Reddog's wedding. Daniel was a Tohono O'odham ceremonial medicineperson until his death a few years ago. Most of all he taught me to listen to my inner truth. Daniel, soar high, my dear brother.

The Tucson International Gem and Mineral Trade Show, 2016. Millions of awesome crystals from all around the world are spread in hotel booths and tents all over the city for 2-3 weeks. Unbelievable beauty and energy! Here you see me in front of an amethyst “cathedral” from Brazil.

The Tucson International Gem and Mineral Trade Show, 2016. Millions of awesome crystals from all around the world are spread in hotel booths and tents all over the city for 2-3 weeks. Unbelievable beauty and energy! Here you see me in front of an amethyst “cathedral” from Brazil.

Circa 1979. From the short, sex education film "James," filmed and edited by Laird Sutton at the National Sex Forum in San Francisco. I designed, performed in, and created the music for three short films about touch and sexuality: a male-female erotic massage, a younger male giving a bathing ceremony to an older male (above), and a foot bathing to a pregnant woman. The recipient above, James Broughton, was a poet and avant-garde filmmaker — a truly awesome and gifted Being.

Circa 1979. From the short, sex education film "James," filmed and edited by Laird Sutton at the National Sex Forum in San Francisco. I designed, performed in, and created the music for three short films about touch and sexuality: a male-female erotic massage, a younger male giving a bathing ceremony to an older male (above), and a foot bathing to a pregnant woman. The recipient above, James Broughton, was a poet and avant-garde filmmaker — a truly awesome and gifted Being.

In full ceremonial dress before beginning SunDance ceremony, circa 2002

In full ceremonial dress before beginning SunDance ceremony, circa 2002

On Tibetan Buddhist meditation retreat with Za Rinpoche, a very important teacher for me. Both Tibetan Buddhism and shamanism have greatly influenced me.

On Tibetan Buddhist meditation retreat with Za Rinpoche, a very important teacher for me. Both Tibetan Buddhism and shamanism have greatly influenced me.

This was my first outdoor whispered space: a labyrinth in Dubai. We are now doing long-distance group ceremonies for people around the world via the Internet on the solstices and equinoxes.

This was my first outdoor whispered space: a labyrinth in Dubai. We are now doing long-distance group ceremonies for people around the world via the Internet on the solstices and equinoxes.