"Adam and eve, not adam and steve."
BALANCING THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE IN YOUR HOME
João Teixeira de Faria, internationally known as John of God or João de Deus, is self-described as "the most powerful unconscious medium alive today and possibly the best-known healer of the past 2000 years".
“I do not cure anybody." he says. "God heals, and in his infinite goodness permits the Entities to heal and console my brothers. I am merely an instrument in God’s divine hands.”
As he has no formal medical training, he gives over his consciousness and incorporates the spirits of past doctors and saints. It is estimated that he has treated, either directly or indirectly, up to 15 million people during the past 40 years. I have witnessed him, first-hand, curing a man from a serious eye-sight problem using a coffee stirring stick and "killing" a cancerous tumor in a women's side at the touch of his hand.
Left: John of God has treated up to 15 million people in the past 40 years.
Above: he gives over his consciousness and incarnates the spirits of past doctors and saints.
As well as the thousands who flock to him for treatment on any given Monday, Wednesday and Friday, there are also many devout followers who are keen to become officially-certified John of God "casa guides", assisting fellow initiates in the process of receiving treatment and experiencing miracles.
There are a few requirements to reach the much coveted role, but one which I found particularly intriguing:
the master insists that initiates should be required to meditate, for a certain period of time, holding a crystal in each hand (covered by gloves for no one to see). Each of these represents a separate gender energy male or female. This practise allows a person to achieve a fuller sense of harmony, reaching a new level of development. When the entity believes the balance is achieved, the person is ready to be a guide.
Indeed, it is often believed in spiritual circles that, to achieve true wholeness and ascend to divinity, one must demonstrate a good balance of female and male energies. It seems that our current cultural context encouraging to identify with only one of the two is leading us astray...
In every being, it is said the right side of the body is masculine and left is feminine. In contrast to this, the right side of the brain is feminine, and the left masculine. So if one was to notice that certain pains tend to appear on one side rather than another, or perhaps acne, scars or anything else, this may be an indication that the energy that this side represents is out of balance and needs attention.
This harmony has little to do with the man, women sexes as we known them but rather with acknowledging polarity in general, harmonising opposites implying that there is an observer and an observed, each with experience of the other. It is recognising that the two governing forces of the moon and the sun both co-exist and that they bear very distinct roles. The sun is an active force, a source of life and manifestation and growth. The moon, the opposite. Reflecting the sun, it represents death, relaxation, nurturing, inactivity. It is less rational and more intuitive. Their coexistence creates a duality, and by balancing the two, we reach a space of non-duality, of oneness. A bringing together of heaven and earth, enablingconnection to our divine source.
When the two polarities are out of balance, our behaviour can become either too active or aggressive, finding no rest ; or passive and submissive, not wanting to participate in life with others . When synchronised and in perfect balance, the yin and yang forces of nature have a better chance of achieving harmony.
The principles of balance and harmony exemplified in the yin and yang, the dynamic weave of the feminine and masculine, bring nourishing support to enhance life.
In ancient civilisations...
As the rules of the temple-makers were those of universal law, they were aware of this. And since one purpose of the temples was to remind forgetful humans of their "godliness", anyone who entered a specific site came under the influence of its inherent properties and departed as a whole being. This ritual of spiritual ascension therefore involved an alchemical process whereby the visitor learns to harmonize the masculine and feminine within.
This is why sacred archaeological sites tend to have both male and female structures. For instance the ancient site of Teotihuacan 40km north of Mexico has a pyramid of the sun and a pyramid of the moon, the sun representing the male energy and the moon, the female.
Chartres Cathedral also displays this with its two towers, one representing the sun, taller and on the right, and one representing the moon, lower and to the left.
The site of Uxmal in the Yucatan is interesting as its largest pyramid, the Pyramid of the Magician, is uniquely androgynous. One side represents the divine feminine, with an opening representing a woman's genitalia, and the other the masculine, with an entrance representing a man's mouth. It was also believed that the gender of a temple could be temporary or changing, as we may want a more masculine force for a certain period and a feminine force later on.
The pyramid of the magicians in Uxmal, Yucatan is androgynous. One side representing the female energy, the other representing the male energy.
In Feng shui.
The second primordial principle of the practise, after that of the flowing, balanced chi, is that of the meeting of the masculine (Yang) and feminine (Yin) energies. Mirroring the need for these to be balanced in ourselves, they should also be balanced in our homes to create a balanced Chi.
Yin and yang represent the two primary forces of chi, and this concept has been part of Chinese philosophy, science and medicine for thousands of years. It is the same principle that governs the practice of acupuncture, where yin symbolizes feminine nature –weak and passive representing the moon –and yang the masculine nature –strong and active representing the sun.
Bringing it home...
In terms of designing our space, it is important to have a look at our environment and evaluate, first, if there is a presence of both Yin and Yang, male and female, and then if they are being used wisely.
Like in the creation of a temple, you may decide you want your home to generally be more Yang at this point in your life, and maybe later you will shift things around to welcome more Yin. You may also want to find a certain balance by breaking it down in areas, consciously deciding some should be more Yin and others more Yang.
Considering the following characteristics of Yang/masculine/sun energy:
You may be seeking more of this energy if you are starting a new business project, studying for a degree, or simply if you have been feeling a bit sluggish, slow and disengaged.
Considering the following characteristics of Yin/feminine/moon energy:
You may be seeking this moon energy if you are just coming out of a difficult relationship and need to take care of yourself, or if you have just been working very hard on a difficult project and it's time for you to slow down, or simply you have been feeling quite high energy and stressed and it's time to take it easy.
You will want your bedrooms, kitchen, guestrooms to be more Yin, nurturing, creative and relaxing while maintaining your home office, living room, entrance more Yang, active, dynamic and prone to manifestation.
Some design characteristics of a Yang space:
- Large open areas,
- sharp objects,
- straight vertical lines,
- active patterns (ie: carpets or wallpapers)
- bright lights,
- anything else that looks/feels overly masculine.
Some design characteristics of a Yin space:
- smaller more closed spaces,
- soft looking,
- curved and flowing shapes,
- soft lighting,
- deep shadows,
- generally looking feminine,
While there are specific colours which Feng shui practitioners use to represent either Yang or Yin, I encourage you to make your own decisions intuitively as this tends to be quite personal. Identifying if a colour is more creative, and nurturing or more active and dynamic is personal to you.
What is masculine for me, may be feminine for someone else (ie: a construction-worker or Rugby player perhaps…)
In the case of my home, I used a very light blue (nearly white) in the living room, blue colours for the sofa and other upholstery, which I considered Yang, as this was the area I use to work in and I felt it needed to be more dynamic and active.
In the bedroom and the meditation/guest room I used more feminine tones of peach/pink and light purple, which are more nurturing and relaxing, much more Yin.
Begin with whichever meditation practise you have been using to this point, tu clear your head of unnecessary clutter.
Walk around your entire flat with a note pad, looking carefully at all the details and taking note of the different decorative elements in your home. According to the characteristics in this article or to your own intuition, are they more Yang or Yin? Remain factual, trying to be objective and unemotional about it, simply making a list.
When that is done, take some time to reflect on what it is you want to achieve in your life and how the different areas of your home may contribute to these objectives.
Sometimes, the first thing to do is simply move around what we already have to create this balance, before buying anything new or organising more labour-intensive changes.
Also consider your space’s orientation. You may want to either enhance what you already have or balance it out.
For instance, north, south, east and north-east orientations are quite masculine. West, north-west, south-east, and south-west are more feminine.You may feel you want to enhance and amplify these benefits, or maybe you want to balance them out.
The most important step is to activate our awareness of the play between these energies, the potential impact they may have on our lives, and the actions we may take trigger the right changes.
And of course, you could also simply follow the lead of the devout John Of God followers and work to balance these energies within yourself. Doing so in your being and/or in your home, will be a giant leap on the path of ascension.
And, as usual, enjoy.